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Radical Self-Care vs. Consistent Self-Love

It's February. How are your New Years Resolutions coming along? Let's be honest - resolutions are about as effective as a freshly washed old bra or that 2x4 piece of wood that's holding up the falling fence. They only hold up for a little bit, then quickly give way to old, droopy ways. This is the month of love, Valentine's day is almost here, and many of us are thinking about radical self-care acts. Don't get me wrong, self-care is great, but we tend to forget about it for months and then decide randomly to do something radical to show ourselves some love.

All jokes aside, resolutions and random radical acts of self-care are great motivators and can serve as a starting point to amazing progress. However, it's consistency that keeps us going. Resolutions and radical self-care acts only get you so far toward your best self before old, deeply ingrained "bad" habits settle back in. Setting out on a journey to become your healthiest self requires consistent acts of self-love and not simply performing random acts of radical self-care.

Performing small acts consistently will help to develop good habits that will transform your life. In addition to forming life-long habits, small actions every day will compound overtime exponentially to ensure that you maintain the success you reach.

I challenge you to start showing yourself some love every day, and to help you get started, I've compiled a list of 20 actions you can take to move the needle a little bit!

The trick here is to choose 2 or 3 and get them going until they are habits, then slowly add in here and there. Resist the urge to take on more than you can handle. Seriously, commit to 2 or 3 and give yourself a chance to see the benefits that they bring to your life and health before you add more.

A great way to get these started is to plan for them. Write down the self-love actions you will take and when and how they will happen. For example, if you want to start drinking more water, decide how much you will drink, when you will drink it, and how you will arrange your world to make it happen.

Here's an example:

"I will drink five 20-ounce containers of water per day, starting tomorrow. I will use the rubber band tracking method and drink at least one full container before I drink my coffee in the morning, one before each meal and one in the evening."

Here's the list of ideas to get you started:

1) Decide how much water you need to drink each day and do it! TIP: Place rubber bands around your water bottle so that each time you finish a bottle, you move a band down to keep track (I use pretty colored bands to keep it fun).

2) Pamper yourself with every glass of water by putting in a couple of drops of your favorite certified pure therapeutic grade essential oils. Some faves are Green Mandarin, Lemon, Slim and Sassy, AirX. TIP: Add a drop of liquid stevia also; this will brighten up the flavor of the essential oils and create a delicious drink!

3) Walk for at least 10 minutes every day. If you want to be someone who moves often, starting with small increments every day will help you a lot more in the long run over taking a 2-hour walk one day and then not walking again for three days because your legs hurt.

4) Do micro workouts. Do one minute of squats or side lunges while waiting for the shower to warm up or while brushing your teeth. Jog in place for one minute in between zoom meetings. Do one minute of crunches before you get into bed at night. Be creative; you get the idea - the point is to start using your body a little bit every day.

5) Do a thought download before you go to bed at night. Get a piece of paper and write down every single thought that comes up. Do this for 10 minutes. Get it onto paper, and that's it. I bet your sleep will be more sound!

6) Turn off your phone before you get into bed and plug it in outside your bedroom. I can hear you now, "I need my phone for the alarm!" Get yourself a good old fashioned alarm clock if needed.

7) Say 3 things you are grateful for today before you fall asleep. BONUS: Say 3 things you're looking forward to today before you get out of bed in the morning.

8) Get 8 hours of sleep every night.

9) Do a 30-minute clean-up before you turn down for the night. Make sure your kitchen is clean, and pick up/put away things lying around or out of place.

10) Brush and floss your teeth at night.

11) Read for 10 minutes each day.

12) Write down what you will eat tomorrow and stick to it! This is a great way to cut out things from your diet that aren't bringing you closer to your healthiest self.

13) Honor your body's cues for hunger, thirst, and satiety. Commit to asking yourself before you grab food; "Am I truly hungry?" You can get started with this by journaling what you are thinking/feeling right before you eat.

14) Set boundaries around your social media time and stick to them.

15) Make on phone call to connect with one friend or family member per day.

16) Commit to 10 minutes of focused learning each day. Decide a topic that interests you and go for it!

17) Eat within a specific pre-determined window each day and make this your personal rule. For example: "I only eat between 10 a.m. and 6 p.m." or "I don't eat after 7 pm."

18) Look in the mirror and say, "I love you!" TIP: For some, this may not be easy at first. You could also look in the mirror and thank your body for all it does or say one positive thing about your body.

19) Commit to a supplement regimen each day. I love these because they give me everything I need in a highly bioavailable small dose.

20) Organize one area, drawer, cabinet per day or week. TIP: As you are going through your house this way, keep like items stored together, donate what you haven't used in a year, and throw away things that are broken, ripped, dirty, or that no longer "spark joy."

I hope these ideas get you started. You may have your own ideas of self-love actions that aren't listed, and I'd love to hear what you do! Please send me an email and let me know how this is going for you!

Now, show yourself some love!

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